Category Archives: Family

The Unknown. Exciting or Scary?

I used to be one of those people who really disliked the unknown.  Not knowing what was going to happen next was frustrating and scary.  I used to do everything in my power to plan, plan, plan.

These days there are a few unknowns in my life and I’m okay with it.  I’m going to roll with the uncertainty and have faith that I’m on the right path even though I have no idea where this path is leading me or my family.  It’s sorta exciting – a feeling I find liberating.  The future is in the palm of my hands. Can I actually direct it by thinking positive thoughts and visualizing?

What do I want?

To simply be happy so I’m a great parent, wife, mentor, friend, sister, daughter, person.

What do you think of the unknown?  Exciting or scary?

Gettin’ Better

I feel better after writing yesterday’s post. I think releasing all of that pent-up emotion helped me feel better about the things going on in my life. Btw, the hubby read the post and mentioned that it sounds like I am really down, and that people might feel worried for me. What I’m going through isn’t that bad -I’m thinking that it’s far worse than it actually is, but I know these are serious emotions that people feel.  What I’m trying to say is that I can relate and that it’s okay to go through the natural cycle of moods.  When it gets rough then lift yourself up.  If you start to feel helpless, bitter, and angry more than you feel enjoyment, then figure out ways to bring that joy back into your life.

As for me, focusing on being grateful, exercising, and talking to loved ones have really helped me so far.  Thankfully, I’m on the right path to gettin’ better.

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Things Are Good These Days

Wanted to update you all on what’s going on in my life these days…I have to admit, things are pretty darn good. I went to the doctor and finally got some medicine to clear up my sinus issues.  As much as I hate to admit this, the natural way just wasn’t cutting it. My clear head is helping me keep up with my mission to “add life to my days, not days to my life“.  I’m trying to stay present and not stress too much about things I cannot control.  I am also doing my best to keep up with my artistic side by painting, designing and creating. Fueling that aspect of my life makes me feel the happiest.  I also started to work out a little more regularly.  My kids are finally starting to dig the “kid area” at my gym.  Yyyyesss!  In terms of being a parent, I am being positive but tough with my kids.  I can’t let these little ones walk all over me, which believe me, they are very capable of doing so. And finally, I am getting more organized! How you ask?  I started blocking out 20 minute chunks of my days to clean and organize without phone, email, or facebook interruptions.  I even set my timer on my phone to know when time’s up.

The next thing I want to get back into is Juicing!!!!  I want to juice everyday to get my family’s bodies strong for the winter months.  Eating better will also be a priority of mine.  I better get my copy of Clean out again!

Thanks again for all of your support and kind words!

May you all have peaceful and positive thoughts the next couple of days!

Welcome Matilda and Madeline!

So remember when I mentioned Megan was working on an exciting new project?  Well, here it is!  She just launched a new Chicago-based business called Matilda and Madeline, Mother’s Helpers.

What mom doesn’t wish for an assistant to help plan meals, stock the nursery,  help figure out what to wear for that cocktail party or baby shower, run errands, plan an exquisite birthday party or to help efficiently reorganize your home to fit yours and your child’s needs?  Matilda and Madeline is your one-stop shop for it all!  The services she offers are above and beyond expectations.   Check out her site and put your feet up and relax for a bit while Matilda and Madeline do the work for you!

Congrats, Meg!  I’m so proud that you are following your dreams and doing something you love.  I have no doubt this will be a huge success!

xoxo

I Heart Traveling

One of my favorite things to do is to daydream about traveling the world with my family. I get excited thinking about taking Stella and Harry to – the top of the Eiffel Tower, The Great Wall of China, on a safari in Africa, St. Sophia mosque in Turkey, the mountain tops of Switzerland, the Grand Canyon, the beaches in California, etc. You get the point.  I know they will love it and they might learn a thing or two from other cultures.

Our next destination?  New York City!  Actually, we are staying in Park Slope, Brooklyn visiting my fly sister Krystle and her boyfriend, Tim.  Fun times ahead!  I’ll share some stories and my own pics afterwards!

Update On My Clean Journey – Life Is Good!

So let me tell you, the elimination diet is freaking hard. I didn’t realize so many things I put in my body are so toxic. The first few days of eliminating the “bad stuff” I had tremendous headaches, could barely focus, was extremely fatigued, and was soooo moody (sorry, family!) I thought to myself many times, ‘is it worth it?’

Eliminating caffeine was the worst. Ever have a caffeine headache? It feels like someone is taking a sledge hammer and whacking your skull. The first couple of days I had to give in and have a cup.

I haven’t actually moved into the detox stage yet – actually trying to get my body used to the elimination phase because I’ve come to realize this is the way I want to eat.  I want my diet and my family’s to consist of fresh, healthy foods without all of that crappy, processed stuff that’s out there.  I’ve just started the book Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan, and I’m feeling a bit frustrated with our food industry.  More on that later.

Now I’m going on my third week without caffeine and processed foods and I feel GREAT!

My moods are leveled and my energy is higher than ever. I think it has a lot has to do with caffeine.  Caffeine seems to be my enemy when I always thought the opposite.  Do I miss having a cup of coffee while my children are having breakfast?  HELL YES!  I miss the smell, the taste, and the whole experience of relaxing with my cup of joe, but I realized after eliminating it, it does me no good.  I’ve succumbed to some bread and a bit of sugar, but I am going to continue eating healthy (salads with lots of veggies, green tea, bean soups, and fruits) so I can continue to feel as good as I possibly can. I feel positive, enlightened, healthy, energetic, supportive towards my family, and young again. What more could I ask for?

I’ll continue to update y’all on this journey!  If you are up for giving up coffee or anything else for that matter and need some support, leave me a message at theinnerpeaceproject@gmail.com.  I’m here for you.

Visualize, Visualize, Visualize!

What do you want in life? (hmmmmm…?)

Would you like to lead a happy life? (um, yes.)

What’s “happy” to you? Traveling, feeling passionate about your life’s work, a white picket fence, a thriving business, innerpeace, a big family, early retirement, a healthy life, fame, a fancy car? Whatever it is you want, you can get or so they say.  My sister is an excellent example of someone who thinks about what she wants, visualizes and things happen.  Pretty cool, if you ask me.  She’s always telling me, “Ashley, figure out what you want and visualize it.”  Okay, sounds easy enough.

A couple of months ago, I started by writing down short-term goals and some long-term goals on a post-it, and now, I try to visit the list as often as possible.  I remember doing this activity freshman year of highschool in health class.  I’m back at it, and I look forward to seeing how everything will pan out!  Should I put my goals on here?!  (kinda scary!)

Here’s a start:

My dream "green" house. I would love to live in an open, modern, electrically efficient home that's surrounded by nature.

I see myself wearing comfy clothes, sitting with my husband and children, reading books, laughing, listening and playing music while sharing our thoughts with one another.

May all our dreams come true!

Put It In Perspective, Will Ya?!

Nothing annoys me more than a person who doesn’t appreciate the good things in life. Okay, I know I’m guilty of it sometimes – ya know, feeling sorry for myself during the days I have a million things to do, a house to clean and two toddlers wanting every ounce of my attention. But I am able to sit back and appreciate the greatness that is in my life – health, joy, family, and the ability to recognize that life isn’t all about ME.

I am experiencing a situation with a close family member of mine who does not realize how blessed he is. He goes on feeling sorry for himself and cannot recognize the positive people/things he has in his life. As I listen to him complain “woe is me” I cannot help but feel a bit of disgust. Why disgust and not compassion for a person who is extremely close to me? because his priorities are backwards and truly mixed up in his head. the thoughts he chooses to emphasize are EGO related and for some reason it bugs the crap out of me. I feel like yelling, “PUT THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE, WILL YA?!”  He can’t grasp that there’s more to life than his own feelings, reputation, status, and how much money he has in his pocket. I wonder if he will ever realize there’s more to life than himself.

What would you do if you knew someone like this? I’ve suggested many things that could help him such as meditation (a incomprehensible act for someone who is so EGO-driven), church, volunteering, spending more time with family, tai chi, vacations, etc. None of it has helped. I’ve spent many years trying to help him out, but he doesn’t seem to get “it”. The whole situation makes me sad and I’m at the point that I set up major boundaries when I’m near him – I do not let him express his thoughts to me about particular subjects, but then I feel bad about not listening to him.

How do you help someone who’s not willing to help themselves?

It’s not up to me to save the world, but I do want to help out those so close to me and who have given me so much. This is my last attempt. Do you have any suggestions on helping someone gain innerpeace when they are extremely EGO driven? How do you help them put life in perspective?  Or should we just not care?

Addicted To Juice

My mom has been doing it for over a decade, my aunt and uncle swear by it, my sister-in-law loves it and now my in-laws are getting into it.  What you ask?  Juicing!  I am super passionate about it and I just can’t hide it.  My friends think I’m slightly crazy because of my love for natural juice.

It’s one of the best ways to get all of your daily vitamins, plus more.  It makes me feel healthy, makes my skin glow and I know I am feeding my body the nutrients it needs.  It’s also fabulous for the kiddos.  I don’t care if they eat marshmallows all day long, just as long as they drink their momma’s juice (which almost always consists of beets, celery, carrots, apples, pineapples and when we need the extra boost we add kale, spinach, dandelion and/or grapes).  And it tastes AWESOME!  Just make sure you add a couple of sweet tasting fruits in the mix and you’re good to go.  I have to admit, I consider myself a juice snob now.  I don’t even look at the watered down or high-fructose corn syrup laden crap they sell in the store.

This is what our juice usually consists of

If you get your kids involved in the whole juicing process, they are more likely to drink it and ask for seconds.  It makes me giddy that Harry and Stella enjoy it as much as I do. Seriously, there’s nothing healthier you can put in your body.

Get the kids involved!

The Beets give it that beautiful pink color that my daughter loves and they are great for your heart and liver

Harry with his "beet" stache

I use the Jack LaLanne because it got high ratings online and it was rather inexpensive compared to what’s on the market.

If you have ANY questions about juicing, please email me at theinnerpeaceproject@gmail.com.  I’m more than happy to answer any questions/concerns.

Give it a try…your health is worth it!

Arnica ROCKS

Okay, let me preface this post – it totally sounds like a commercial.  It’s not…I just really really like this stuff.

When my brother was about two, he was an active, wild, and a high-energy kid. He was totally into Ninja Turtles and would high kick anyone who came into his path. He would fly around the room doing spins and karate chops like no other, which also meant lotsa banging and crashing into things.  Bruises and goose eggs were common for the little dude.

So my worried mom discovered Arnica. The moment he would crash into something, my mom would yell out in her Mexican accent, “Get the ARRNEEEEECAAA!” My sister or I would rush for it and rub it on him. Almost two decades later, I am using the same pain reliever on my kids and it works like a charm. Arnica is a homeopathic ointment – to relieve pain, swelling and minimize bruising – even the pro athletes use this stuff.

I can’t prevent my kids from going wild and getting hurt, but I can help them relieve pain and minimize those awful looking goose eggs.  Even my friend, Annie, who’s somewhat of a skeptic (towards this stuff) thought it was great…

Here's ours. almost out. since I've had a boy, I use it way more..