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Is Your Mind Like A Blizzard?

Have you ever felt like other people are controlling your thoughts, your emotions, your inner dialogue, the way you feel about yourself?  The next question is – without them knowing it? You just do it to yourself?  Whether you are in a situation and you take something a person says, and in your mind,  you twist and turn it into a negative experience without that even being their intention?

Do you ever compare yourself to others?  Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough?  Well these negative thoughts have crept into my mind as of late and it’s starting to drive me crazy.  How can I be strong enough to combat these negative emotions? I consider myself an open-minded, free-spirited kinda gal, so I am able to realize that I’m on the path that I’m supposed to be on (even though it wasn’t planned by me and it’s, quite frankly, sometimes not that fun (but it is)). Why do those stinkin’ negative emotions come into my mind and weaken me?  I find myself feeling depressed in a literal sense.

Is it the cold-ass weather (there is a serious blizzard going on in the midwest as I type).  Is it this depressed economy?  Is it that I haven’t seen the sun in over a week?  Is it because I think I’m not challenging myself in ways that I used to when I was younger? (but I am) Regardless, I want to stop being so freaking hard on myself.

So how do I do this? I giggle and sigh because I have no clue.  I guess all I can do is educate myself on ways to make myself happier by reading books, websites, talking to those who seem to be happy and asking them what their secret is, keeping my mind still so the answer can come to me, and to do things that make me happy.

In the meantime, I will be shoveling my way out of this funk with a smile on my face.


Trust Your Gut?

Lately, I’ve felt a bit confused, somewhat melancholy, and a bit lost and I don’t know why.  It’s a strange feeling because I normally feel the opposite.  Is it the weather?  Are my kids wearing me down?  Is it my lack of direction? The bad economy?  I don’t know why I’m like this, but I do know I want to change.  I want to be happy.  When I’m not feeling my normal self, my decision-making skills often do me wrong.  Not good.  I started to get down on myself and I realized I just need to trust my gut.  So simple, yet so difficult sometimes.  Whenever I go against what I feel is right, it almost always goes haywire.  Things don’t go as smoothly.  The decision I made becomes a struggle, and I always seem to have to work a little too hard to make it work.

So from here on out, I am going to make a conscious effort to trust what my gut tells me in terms of my life’s direction and have faith that it’s the only way.  So, the question is, how do I do this?  I think I need to be still and quiet my mind.  I must stop thinking of things that could happen and be present.  It’s so easy to talk ourselves out of what feels right.  I don’t think our brains are always right.  I know this probably seems like total crazy talk, but I am going to experiment and see how it works.  I’m not going to let anyone else or that little voice in my head convince me otherwise.  Wish me luck.

Happy Earth Day!

Hi Everyone!  I know it has been a while since I have last blogged – sorry! Things have been a bit hectic, but fun in our household.

So, it’s Earth Day…it’s great – there’s so much attention, celebration, and dedication to our home.  Innerpeace Project participated in One Small Change to make our Earth a better place to live, not only for us, but for many generations to come.  Today honors the celebration of it.  I’ve been thinking about this day for some time and wondered how am I going to teach my 1 and 3-year-old about the importance of sustaining our planet?  I want to teach them at an early age so the three r’s become second nature to them.  Today we are going to do a few things in honor of our earth AND they will be fun activities for them.

First I thought we would go on a walk around our neighborhood and pick up litter on the grass and sidewalk (I’ll be sure to bring hand sanitizer and plenty of wipes!).  Hopefully later we will plant some herbs and flowers on our back deck while being cognizant of our electricity and resource usage. Sounds like fun to me…I’m sure Harry and Stella will be somewhat amused by our activities.  I’ll post some pictures tomorrow!

A little update on what’s going on in my life: my sister moved in with us for a couple of months to save some mula before she moves to Brooklyn to start her own adventure!  We have been having loads of fun playing with the kids, laughing a lot, challenging one another’s creativity, and reliving old memories.  I’ve also been hanging out with the kiddos and soaking up every bit of enjoyment they bring me. I’m trying to be present when I’m around them because these treasured times are what I live for… and I do not want to forget these beautiful innocent moments (my dad reminded me of this yesterday).  Also, in an effort to do things for myself, I broke out my art supplies and started painting again!  I’ll post some pictures after I finish.  Along with doing things for myself, I’m trying to stay active in my neighborhood.  Yesterday I stopped by my alderman’s office to get involved in some type of community clean up.  I am going to really try to make a sincere effort to try to make a difference where I live –  instead of ignoring it.  But I’m back and ready to share more ways we can improve our lives.

Are you doing anything special for Earth Day?  I would love to hear some of your stories!

10 Sources of (INNER)PEACE for 2010

2010 has arrived and I’m feeling pumped for the new year and the beginning of a new decade!

People are getting inspired, getting healthy, realizing the importance of what we are putting in and on our bodies, conscious of the fact that our earth is precious and that we need to do everything in our power to heal it, realizing we truly have the power to help people around the world, and that we have total control of our thoughts (no matter how hard we have to work at it).

’10 sources of (inner)peace:

1.  The children in our lives.  Kids have this amazing way of forcing us to be PRESENT.  They are in the moment when they are running around, playing, eating, etc.  They focus on the task at hand, which is something that us adults need to remind ourselves to do.

2. Our Moms.  Both Meg and I have truly amazing moms.  Speaking for myself, I was the typical teenager who liked to do things my way.  My mom and I used to butt heads often, but as the years pass, she has inspired me to follow my dreams, be confident in what I do, to think for myself, and to have a lot of fun while doing it.  Meg’s mom has been such a great support for her, as well.  She opened her eyes to trusting her life’s path.  We are so thankful for them.

3.  You!  Thank you for all of your support in making this possible and for encouraging us to experience life on many different levels, and to share our thoughts.  We truly enjoy this process and look forward to living enlightened lives with you.

4.  Our significant others.  They are amazing, supportive and allow us to be who we truly are.

5.  Our friendships.  I can honestly say, Meg and I have wonderful friends who make us laugh, encourage us to live life to the fullest; and allow us to share our concerns, happiness and good fortune with one another.

6.  Books.  Books are an essential source of inspiration for the(Inner)Peace project.  As our libraries grow, so do our minds.

7.  Our city, Chicago. What a wonderful city with good people.  We are fortunate to have many facilities, beautiful gardens and architecture, wellness centers, etc. around as sources of inspiration.

8.  Vegetables and Fruit.  As I learn the benefits of raw fruit and vegetables, the more excited I get to consume them.  Eating well can truly make a difference in how our brain functions.  On a physical level, it makes our bodies feel great and it helps to keep a well balanced mind.

9.  Music.  Nothing like music to bring back a great memory, make us smile, dance, sing, and feel pure joy that inspires us to live in the moment.

10.  LOVE

We truly hope you have an inspired 2010.  Remember, anything is possible.  Put your mind to whatever you want to achieve and make it your best year ever!  That’s our plan.

Is my strive for innerpeace bringing inner turmoil?

I have to admit, after yesterday’s post, I began to feel a little apprehensive. Honestly, I let my ego get in the way (bad ego! trying to get rid of it!). I began to think, what if people thought I was trying to be perfect. First of all, we should not care what people think. As Dr.Wayne Dyer says, “You can meet 32 different people and they all will have 32 absolutely different opinions of you, non of which you can control.” Nobody’s claiming to be perfect here (hello – there’s no such thing!). We are simply trying to get on the path of contentment. We all want to be happy. If we were our happiest, then imagine what we could accomplish. We live in a society where ego truly gets the best of us. We think of ourselves too much and are quick to judge. Imagine if our world didn’t consist of hatred, jealousy, egos, and the desire for lots of money.

What if our world was more simple? Probably war, poverty, cancer, the desire to bring people down, chemicals, etc. wouldn’t be issues that we face today. We are all here to live out our lives to the best of our ability and to help one another. We will all die one day – it’s a fact. Why don’t we work together, bring one another up and truly work on allowing our best selves to be present. Believe me, this is not the path of least resistance…it’s easier to go the other way, but what’s the point? Being negative might temporarily make us feel better (misery loves company) but in the long run it hurts us and those around us.

Yesterday was a trying day for me. Not judging or making comments wasn’t as easy as I thought but I was able to catch myself. When I found myself on the verge of thinking something that might be considered a judgment, I stopped myself. We CAN control our minds, peeps! I’m going to try MY best to work on this. For MY innerpeace.

The path of contentment isn’t a clear one. There are lots of branches to cut through, big obstacles that we must persevere through, and many setbacks that we will encounter; but I’m absolutely confident that once we reach our destination, it will be so beautiful and filled with love, we will never want to turn back. That’s why I am on this journey. Why are you?