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Put It In Perspective, Will Ya?!

Nothing annoys me more than a person who doesn’t appreciate the good things in life. Okay, I know I’m guilty of it sometimes – ya know, feeling sorry for myself during the days I have a million things to do, a house to clean and two toddlers wanting every ounce of my attention. But I am able to sit back and appreciate the greatness that is in my life – health, joy, family, and the ability to recognize that life isn’t all about ME.

I am experiencing a situation with a close family member of mine who does not realize how blessed he is. He goes on feeling sorry for himself and cannot recognize the positive people/things he has in his life. As I listen to him complain “woe is me” I cannot help but feel a bit of disgust. Why disgust and not compassion for a person who is extremely close to me? because his priorities are backwards and truly mixed up in his head. the thoughts he chooses to emphasize are EGO related and for some reason it bugs the crap out of me. I feel like yelling, “PUT THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE, WILL YA?!”  He can’t grasp that there’s more to life than his own feelings, reputation, status, and how much money he has in his pocket. I wonder if he will ever realize there’s more to life than himself.

What would you do if you knew someone like this? I’ve suggested many things that could help him such as meditation (a incomprehensible act for someone who is so EGO-driven), church, volunteering, spending more time with family, tai chi, vacations, etc. None of it has helped. I’ve spent many years trying to help him out, but he doesn’t seem to get “it”. The whole situation makes me sad and I’m at the point that I set up major boundaries when I’m near him – I do not let him express his thoughts to me about particular subjects, but then I feel bad about not listening to him.

How do you help someone who’s not willing to help themselves?

It’s not up to me to save the world, but I do want to help out those so close to me and who have given me so much. This is my last attempt. Do you have any suggestions on helping someone gain innerpeace when they are extremely EGO driven? How do you help them put life in perspective?  Or should we just not care?

Is my strive for innerpeace bringing inner turmoil?


I have to admit, after yesterday’s post, I began to feel a little apprehensive. Honestly, I let my ego get in the way (bad ego! trying to get rid of it!). I began to think, what if people thought I was trying to be perfect. First of all, we should not care what people think. As Dr.Wayne Dyer says, “You can meet 32 different people and they all will have 32 absolutely different opinions of you, non of which you can control.” Nobody’s claiming to be perfect here (hello – there’s no such thing!). We are simply trying to get on the path of contentment. We all want to be happy. If we were our happiest, then imagine what we could accomplish. We live in a society where ego truly gets the best of us. We think of ourselves too much and are quick to judge. Imagine if our world didn’t consist of hatred, jealousy, egos, and the desire for lots of money.

What if our world was more simple? Probably war, poverty, cancer, the desire to bring people down, chemicals, etc. wouldn’t be issues that we face today. We are all here to live out our lives to the best of our ability and to help one another. We will all die one day – it’s a fact. Why don’t we work together, bring one another up and truly work on allowing our best selves to be present. Believe me, this is not the path of least resistance…it’s easier to go the other way, but what’s the point? Being negative might temporarily make us feel better (misery loves company) but in the long run it hurts us and those around us.

Yesterday was a trying day for me. Not judging or making comments wasn’t as easy as I thought but I was able to catch myself. When I found myself on the verge of thinking something that might be considered a judgment, I stopped myself. We CAN control our minds, peeps! I’m going to try MY best to work on this. For MY innerpeace.

The path of contentment isn’t a clear one. There are lots of branches to cut through, big obstacles that we must persevere through, and many setbacks that we will encounter; but I’m absolutely confident that once we reach our destination, it will be so beautiful and filled with love, we will never want to turn back. That’s why I am on this journey. Why are you?