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Welcome Matilda and Madeline!

So remember when I mentioned Megan was working on an exciting new project?  Well, here it is!  She just launched a new Chicago-based business called Matilda and Madeline, Mother’s Helpers.

What mom doesn’t wish for an assistant to help plan meals, stock the nursery,  help figure out what to wear for that cocktail party or baby shower, run errands, plan an exquisite birthday party or to help efficiently reorganize your home to fit yours and your child’s needs?  Matilda and Madeline is your one-stop shop for it all!  The services she offers are above and beyond expectations.   Check out her site and put your feet up and relax for a bit while Matilda and Madeline do the work for you!

Congrats, Meg!  I’m so proud that you are following your dreams and doing something you love.  I have no doubt this will be a huge success!



Be Careful What You Wish For…

Ever since I quit my job to stay home with my beloved children, I have been wrestling with the fact that part of being a mom at home is being in charge of housework. Dusting, sweeping, mopping, picking up, doing dishes – I hate it all. Yes, hate is a strong word, but I really do. I complain about it all the time. I even claim to be allergic to it – I sneeze like crazy, my eyes begin to itch and I have a stuffy nose by the end of the day. I ask my friends what’s the secret behind having a clean home and they all say, “you clean.” duh. I still could not wrap my brain around the constant work. Just a few weeks ago, I was the mom who let the kids eat cookies and crackers in the living room without even thinking about it. I thought, ah they’re kids, let them enjoy and I will clean it up later, then bitch about it.

For months, I yearned to be tidier. Well, my dream came true. How you ask? I HAVE A MOUSE.  Gross.  I have to admit though, when I thought of mice in homes, I thought of being in the country or dirtiness. I neither live on prairie land nor do I have a dirty home – a bit unorganized, yes, but definitely not dirty. Now I find myself constantly cleaning my floors, sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, and cleaning off all surfaces to avoid this small creäture. I have seen it and it’s quite small and, dare I say, cute. But it’s still a mouse. It actually reminds me of the little mice in the Disney movies (which my daughter’s been watching like crazy) that (ironically) help the princesses clean.  Anyway, as I was mopping the floor for the third time this morning I thought, dang, this place is clean! …thanks to our own little Mickey.

Now on to figuring out how to get rid of it. Oh, and I guess we should be careful what we wish for. I never thought mine would come true in the form of a mouse.

Who Said Living With a 3yr Old Was Easy?

Instant tantrums, power struggles, 30 minute crying fits, whining, talking back is a typical day for me and my 3 year old.  My quest for innerpeace is definitely challenged by my spirited daughter on a daily basis.  She’s a sweet girl, very cute and when she wants to be – a good girl.  However, I don’t know what’s come over her these days.  Lately, she’s been driving me up a wall, leaving me feeling frustrated, anxious and vunerable.  Is it me?  Is it her age? Am I not listening to her?

I used to say I wasn’t going to be “that parent.” Before I had kids, I thought I was going to be a great mom who listens to my children, which would prevent any type of ill behavior.  Um, yeah, I was wrong!  I do everything in my power to keep her calm, happy and healthy, but kids will be kids.  My husband and I are trying our best to strike a balance between having the upper-hand and letting her express herself, but quite honestly, it’s not working to our benefit!

I know it’s a phase that will pass shortly, but in the meantime, let’s pray that I make it out with some sanity!

This isn’t an easy situation and after discussing it with other moms last night, I’m not the only one.  Bottom line: it’s a difficult age and I’m going to have to suck it up, not let my frustration get the best of me and BREATHE when times get rough. 

Cloth Diapering-The Real Scoop

As a mom of 2 small children in diapers, I was concerned with the cost factor and the impact it has on our earth. My concerns prompted me to take a cloth diapering class at Be By Baby in Chicago. The instructor was totally gung-ho about cloth diapering-it was almost scary. She made it seem like moms who use “evil” disposable diapers are as bad as those moms who put pop in their baby’s bottles. I did learn a lot though and it prompted me to take the plunge and invest in those colorful sacks for poop. Here’s the real scoop on how cloth diapering works and you decide if it’s worth it for your child and the environment.

PRO- They are super cute! My 2 year old daughter loves all the fun colors. We enjoy hang drying them together and we discuss all the colors as we hang them – a good learning lesson!
CON- It’s not so fun scraping the poop off the diaper and let me tell you, my son has a lot of poop! I’m talking 4 times a day. I say I have a very close relationship with my kids’ bowel movements. In fact, I found a googly eye in his diaper this morning.
PRO- The new cloth diapers are pretty easy to use. They come with snaps or velcro – no need for pins like the oldies.
CON- They do have a tendency to leak if you leave the diaper on 20 minutes too long. It can get pretty inconvenient if we are hanging at the park or the museum.
PRO- Gotta love the diaper sprayer that helps deposit the poop into the toiliet. This is a must. I cannot imagine this whole process without it.
CON- Sometimes they smell funky if they aren’t washed well enough, e.g., not enough water in the machine, which I tend to do often.
PRO- No more stinky diaper pails hanging out in the room! Man, my hubby and I hated that thing. We were elated when we realized we didn’t need it anymore and chucked it (actually recycled it)!

Sure some of the pros look like cons masked nicely, but what really assured me was the positive feedback from other moms who cloth diaper. They were all really positive about it. In fact, they all LOVE it. I think it’s great too but it’s not so glamorous when having to change 10+ diapers a day. On the flip side, the peace of mind you feel from knowing you’re not contributing to the smelly diaper mountain, er…landfill., makes it worth the effort. It makes me happy that I could help this Earth stay cleaner. I just wanted to give you the real low-down on this process. It’s not always fun and exciting but it’s helpful for our children and for our earth.

Here are a few more facts I learned from the class:
-Every baby produces approx 4000+ pounds of disposable diaper waste that ends up in our landfills (whoa!)
-It costs between $2500-$3500 for disposable diapers for one child vs $700 or less ( I spent less than $400 for both of my kiddos), and many can be reused on siblings
-It can take 500+ years for a disposbale diaper to biodegrade if it ever will
-Dioxin, Tributyl-tin and Sodium Polyacrylate are all toxic substances used in disposable diapers
-Washing cloth diapers uses the same amount of water as flushing the toliet 5-6 times per day

Now you tell me, is it worth it?